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Teenager Depression or Feeling “blue”

Posted by venkatramseo on July 10, 2009


As a teenager, there are so many changes taking place in your body and with your emotions that it can be very overwhelming. You might feel like you are in a great mood one minute and a bad one the next. This roller coaster of emotions is normal. It’s OK to have the blues sometimes and there are things you can do to feel better. Try these tips to improve your mood:

  • Know that what you are going through is very common.
  • Find a way to relax, such as sitting down and taking a deep breath or taking a shower.
  • Talk to your friends, parents/guardians, teachers, counselors, or doctors about what you are feeling. They can help you sort through your emotions.
  • Get some exercise. When you exercise, your body makes more special chemicals called endorphins. Endorphins can help improve your mood.
  • Make sure that you get enough rest. Being tired can make you feel more stressed.

There is a big difference between having the blues and having depression. Depression is a serious illness that affects many young people. The good news is that depression can be treated. Make sure to talk to your doctor or school counselor about any worries you have about depression.
How will I know if I have depression?

While some signs of depression can seem a lot like just having the blues, there is a way to know if you need to talk to your doctor about depression. See your doctor about depression if:

  • you have five or more of the symptoms listed below for at least two weeks, or
  • any one of these symptoms gets in the way of school or family life.

Symptoms of depression

  • sadness or crying that you can’t explain
  • major changes in the way you eat such as not eating or over-eating
  • being crabby, angry, worried or nervous
  • feeling negative or not caring about anything
  • feeling guilty or worthless
  • thinking about death or committing suicide
  • sleep changes, such as sleeping more or having trouble sleeping
  • not being able to focus or make a decision
  • not being able to enjoy the things you usually enjoy
  • not wanting to spend time with your friends
  • feeling restless or tired most of the time

If your doctor decides that you do have depression, there are many ways it can be treated. The important thing is to get help. For more helpful information, check out: Let’s Talk about Depression (PDF – 45KB) from the National Institute of Mental Health.

How can I help a friend who is depressed?

With all the changes taking place and new demands on your time, it is normal for you and your friends to feel down sometimes. If you have a friend who has been down for weeks, she or he may be dealing with depression. There are ways you can help. To learn how, check out What to do when a friend is depressed (PDF – 78KB) document from the National Institute of Mental Health.


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Test and Boost Your Self-Esteem

Posted by venkatramseo on June 22, 2009

Test your self-esteem

feeling good peoples

If you have high or healthy self-esteem, you will agree with the following statements:

  • Photo of girl sitting in the grassI feel good about who I am.
  • I am proud of what I can do, but I do not show off.
  • I know there are some things that I am good at and some things I need to improve.
  • I am responsible for the things I do and say, both good and bad.
    It is okay if I win or if I lose.
  • Before I do something, I usually think “I can do it.”

If you have low or poor self-esteem, you might agree with the following statements:low self esteem girl

  • Photo of upset girl sitting on the stepsI can’t do anything right.
  • I am ugly or dumb.
  • I do not have any friends.
  • I do not like to try new things.
  • It really upsets me to make mistakes.
  • I do not think I am as nice, pretty, or smart as the other girls in my class.
  • I have a hard time making friends.
  • I have a hard time making friends because I end up getting angry and fighting with people.
  • It makes me uncomfortable when people say nice things about me.
    Sometimes I feel better if I say mean things to other people.

If many or all of these items sound like you, it will be helpful for you to work on raising your self-esteem. Try these steps.

Boost your self-esteem
Boost up girl

  • Tell yourself that it is okay not to be the best at everything.
    Help out by doing chores around the house and volunteering in your community.
  • Do things that you enjoy, or learn about new things you would like to try.
  • Understand that there will be times when you will feel disappointed in yourself and other people. No one is perfect!
  • If you are angry, try talking it over with an adult you trust (parents/guardians, relatives or a school counselor).
  • Think positively about yourself and the things you can do. Think: “I will try!”
  • If you still find that you are not feeling good about yourself, talk to your parents/guardian, a school counselor, or your doctor because you may be at risk for depression. (You can also ask the school nurse for help through tough times. Some schools offer counseling.) Learn more about depression and other health issues that can affect your mind.

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Test and Boost Your Self-Confidence

Posted by venkatramseo on May 22, 2009

If you have high self-confidence, you will agree with the following statements:

  • I am eager to learn new things.
  • girl sitting crosslegged in smiling

    girl sitting crosslegged in smiling

  • I take pride in doing a good job and being a nice person.
  • I can handle criticism without being too emotional.
  • I know what things I am good at, and those that I’m not.
  • It is okay if I win or if I lose.
  • Before I do something, I usually think “I can do it.”
  • I like to try to do things without help, but I don’t mind asking for help if I really need it.
  • I like myself.

Low self confidence girl

Low self confidence girl

If you have low self-confidence, you might agree with the following statements:

  • I do not like to try new things.
  • I can’t do anything right.
  • If my friends criticize me, or if my teacher corrects a lot on my homework, I get very upset.
  • I don’t know what I am good at.
  • I have a hard time meeting new people or making friends.
  • I am embarrassed to ask a question or speak up in class.
  • Before I do something, I may think “I can’t do it.”
  • I don’t like to try new things unless someone shows me how to do it first.
  • I don’t like myself.

Boost your self-confidence

Happy girl

Happy girl

  • Think positive thoughts about yourself! Focus on your strengths – not your weaknesses. Realize that you are better at some things than others.
  • Set realistic goals. This means not setting goals too high or too low, but at a level you know you can reach. Then, you can always strive to do better than your goal.
  • Give yourself credit when you reach a goal and praise yourself when you have done well.
  • Learn to be assertive – express your thoughts, opinions, needs, and feelings openly – but without abusing others’ rights.
  • Don’t compare yourself to others – remember, you’re just fine the way you are!
  • Practice positive body language. Walk tall, don’t slump. When your body says “I can” everyone will believe you can.

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